Love Is An Habit And Like Every Other Habit It Can Be Replaced

Love Is An Habit And Like Every Other Habit It Can Be Replaced

I find this whole love and relationship stuff very funny. Firstly love is an illusion, it doesn't exist because there is always a selfish motive behind it vice versa. Secondly commitment is a choice, and it's subject to change for selfish reasons as well. So the only person that can truly love you is you. Even at that most people still don't love themselves how much more another.

You see the human brain has been wired to keep memories and to learn habits over repeated behavioral patterns. So lets say you have this person that always calls you in the morning and evening to tell you "Good morning baby" and "good night baby" and lets say you happen to like it, maybe because of the persons voice.

Now according to how habits are form, if this goes on continuously for a period of time and you keep liking the feelings, it will become an habit( meaning your brain has stored and recorded this behavior as a "favorite").

Now if this person that calls every morning and evening automatically stops it, because your brain has already recorded to behavior as a favorite, it will record a "Jam" like a malfunction this is what we call "Missing someone", you're only missing the person because you brain can't find an habit that surpasses that particular one at that given time.

So what happens? well the brain starts learning a new behavior to cover up the space already occupied by that previous habit. That's why you find that you can get over someone after a week or two depending on the activities you engage yourself in.

So love is an habit and like every other habit it gets replace with a new one after an unused period of time. Stop deceiving yourself that love is spiritual or magical or a fate. No, love is simple biology its not a chemistry whatsoever. So if you find yourself loving too much to a fault, begin to learn new habits by getting engage to a more purposeful and self fulfilling behaviors. Then come thank me later.